The Unexpected Cost of Always Trying to Live in the Moment

Every summer when growing up, my family would take trips to Cape Cod. My brother and I would spend the days leading up to our trip rifling through our CD collections, deciding which albums to bring with us for the six-hour drive (Blink-182, SR-71, and, later, Motion City Soundtrack were always among the top of […]

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The Tug of War Between Being “Perfect” and Being “Real” Online

There’s a lot about motherhood that’s talked about on the internet. Mom blogs are rampant — and you can find one on almost every topic. If it’s not a mom blog, it’s a mom Instagram account. Or a mom YouTube channel. All of which are gleaming with the superficial: lists of favorite products, the ingredients […]

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Motherhood Is Not a “Before” and an “After”

When I was younger, I believed in the idea of separate selves. Throughout high school and college, I felt myself consistently shifting — not so much changing, but disappearing and then reappearing as someone completely different. I divided portions of my life into chapters, all of which neatly fit within the pages of my journals […]

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On Time, And Learning to Hold On To What’s Possible

I remember being a kid, and thinking that the school years lasted forever. One cycle of September to June felt like an eternity, as I counted down the days until classes ended and camp began. Of course, once summer came, everything was reversed. I’d blink, and the first day of camp became the last. My […]

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Regarding the Pressure For New Moms to Be Perfect

It begins, appropriately enough, with pregnancy: the need to do everything — and I mean everything — to perfection. Drink enough water. Exercise, but not too much. Eat healthy foods, but watch out for ones that are dangerous. Get the nursery ready, but don’t over-exert yourself. “Sleep while you can,” but not on your back. Prepare as […]

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What You Don’t See On Instagram

Most people probably know that Instagram isn’t a good representation of real life, but it’s easy to get caught up in an idea of what your life should look like, especially while scrolling through other people’s picture-perfect ‘grams. A few weeks ago, I was talking to my husband about one of my friends who has a […]

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On Being “Ready” For Children

When I was younger, I always thought that I’d get “baby fever” overnight. I anticipated it being like a switch that got flipped, and suddenly there would be a new feeling inside my heart that wasn’t there before. The reality, however, was somewhat different. I found out that I was pregnant literally days after changing […]

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The Internet: A New Mom’s Best Friend and Worst Enemy

Shortly after I became a mom, my Google search history filled up with endless queries about swaddles, sleep products, feeding schedules, bedtime routines, correct latching, poop (so many poop questions) — I could go on and on. In some ways, having the internet as a resource is a blessing, but in a lot of other […]

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