I’m Calling Bullshit on “Having It All”

It’s been a long time — over six months — since I’ve blogged. I could say that I’ve been busy, and that would be true, but it would also be an understatement. Every second of every day is allotted to something. If I’m not at home with my toddler, I’m out with her, running errands, […]

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The First Year of Motherhood: What You Lose, and What You Gain

In two weeks, I’ll have a one-year-old. It’s simultaneously exciting (a cause for celebration, after all) and mind-blowing, because I’m not entirely sure where the time has gone. If I blinked and found myself transported back to last summer, I’d probably just think: I had the craziest dream. Throughout my pregnancy and even a lot […]

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“Body Neutrality” Is the Best That I Can Do

A few days ago, I pulled out a romper from the back of my closet. The black fabric was slightly wrinkled, a few beads on the neckline coming loose on the thread. I hadn’t worn it since the summer of 2016, almost two years ago at this point, months before I got pregnant. I stumbled […]

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The Unexpected Cost of Always Trying to Live in the Moment

Every summer when growing up, my family would take trips to Cape Cod. My brother and I would spend the days leading up to our trip rifling through our CD collections, deciding which albums to bring with us for the six-hour drive (Blink-182, SR-71, and, later, Motion City Soundtrack were always among the top of […]

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The Tug of War Between Being “Perfect” and Being “Real” Online

There’s a lot about motherhood that’s talked about on the internet. Mom blogs are rampant — and you can find one on almost every topic. If it’s not a mom blog, it’s a mom Instagram account. Or a mom YouTube channel. All of which are gleaming with the superficial: lists of favorite products, the ingredients […]

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Motherhood Is Not a “Before” and an “After”

When I was younger, I believed in the idea of separate selves. Throughout high school and college, I felt myself consistently shifting — not so much changing, but disappearing and then reappearing as someone completely different. I divided portions of my life into chapters, all of which neatly fit within the pages of my journals […]

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On Time, And Learning to Hold On To What’s Possible

I remember being a kid, and thinking that the school years lasted forever. One cycle of September to June felt like an eternity, as I counted down the days until classes ended and camp began. Of course, once summer came, everything was reversed. I’d blink, and the first day of camp became the last. My […]

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Regarding the Pressure For New Moms to Be Perfect

It begins, appropriately enough, with pregnancy: the need to do everything — and I mean everything — to perfection. Drink enough water. Exercise, but not too much. Eat healthy foods, but watch out for ones that are dangerous. Get the nursery ready, but don’t over-exert yourself. “Sleep while you can,” but not on your back. Prepare as […]

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What You Don’t See On Instagram

Most people probably know that Instagram isn’t a good representation of real life, but it’s easy to get caught up in an idea of what your life should look like, especially while scrolling through other people’s picture-perfect ‘grams. A few weeks ago, I was talking to my husband about one of my friends who has a […]

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On Being “Ready” For Children

When I was younger, I always thought that I’d get “baby fever” overnight. I anticipated it being like a switch that got flipped, and suddenly there would be a new feeling inside my heart that wasn’t there before. The reality, however, was somewhat different. I found out that I was pregnant literally days after changing […]

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